As I’ve done the last few years, I prepared for Easter with a Lenten fast from alcohol and sweets. What was different this year was that much to my surprise my 16-year-old son decided to observe a fast as well.
How it all Began
About the same time that Lent began, my son and I started a new bedtime routine. We read a daily devotional and then prayed together. On the evening of Ash Wednesday, he asked me about the ashes on my forehead which led to a conversation about Lent. (By the way, observing Lent, or Ash Wednesday, is not exclusively for Catholics as some mistakenly believe.)
The next day after school he announced he was giving up video games for Lent! My heart leapt for joy at his sacrificial offering. I don’t remember what I said that night. I didn’t ask him about giving anything up himself. When he told me his decision the next day, he was excited.
My husband and I have had discussions with our son about the amount of time he spends on video games in the past. Sometimes those discussions turned pretty heated, and he’d lose his gaming privileges. We’ve also suggested alternative ways of using his leisure time. Nothing else ever seemed to interest him.
My son’s video game collection–and that’s not even all of it!
However, as Lent started my son was excited to share his choice—and even recognized how hard it would be. Those first few days he admitted to me that his thoughts would turn to gaming. He learned to turn his attention elsewhere — sometimes to God, and other times to his studies. Those thoughts diminished over time.
The End of the Journey
As the 40-day journey grew closer to Holy Week, we talked about what he would do after Easter. Would he return to his old gaming behavior? Would he continue his fast? I shared with him my previous Lent experiences—ranging from returning to immediate gratification with candy on Easter Sunday to abstaining for a prolonged period. He has opted to return in moderation.
What excites me about this year’s pilgrimage to Easter is not so much that he stopped gaming, it’s that he (and us together) started a great ritual of connecting at the end of the day. I would often forget, and he’d remind me to join him for our devotional and prayer time. He also started reading the Bible again and occasionally writing in a journal.
My son and our dog, one of his best friends.
In God’s Timing
I know a lot of this is only possible because my son made a decision to try medication again for his ADHD a few months ago. He is a changed person.
The medication has given him access to areas of his brain that before were preventing his behaviors from aligning with his desires. It has allowed him to establish new homework routines, focus on his studies, become more social and succeed in school. In turn, he is now making more adult decisions and able to find a part of his self that was inaccessible before.
I’m very thankful that we went down this road with him. I’m grateful that he persevered over the last few years. I praise God for His timing in all of this (yet again!) and how my son is actively pursuing his relationship with Him. I’m also glad that I was able to model something to him in the past and that he caught that behavior on his own.
Surprised by God
I had hoped that my son would actually write this post for me (another thing we talked about during Lent), but he is busy with his studies. He did, however, quickly volunteered to help with the photos and captions.
When I asked him what he’d like to share about his Lenten Journey, he said, “It was a beneficial experience for me. It helped me to know God better and do well in school.” That’s a lot to get out of a 16-year-old who is filled with new hope and finding his way in life.
As far as my fast, I’m still abstaining—for now. I’m embracing the joy of getting to know my son in a deeper way. That was my Lenten surprise.
Did God surprise you on your journey toward Easter? I’d love to hear your story.
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